Career subjects VS. depression

 So, career subjects vs. depression. My favourite topic. 

NOTE - This whole blog will be based on the life of students of India.

A class 10th student sometimes takes that kind of subjects which makes him/her feel regret throughout his/her upcoming 2 years, and maybe throughout life.  Some students are pressurised to take specific subjects like Medical/Non-Medical. Some students who don't get pressurised, still take subjects of parents choice because they are obedient ones, who very well understand the thinking of their parents. But believe me, those who don't get pressurised but still takes difficult subjects/subjects which their parents always wanted their child to take, are the ones who suffer the most throughout their lives. 

According to Indian parents, in India, there are only 2 subjects which can make a person successful, that are Medical and Non-Medical i.e. Either Doctor or Engineer. Some parents who have complete knowledge of other subjects know very well that with which subjects their child should go for will never let their child take medical and non-medical.

Mine only advise to everyone, if you are reading it as a student - do that thing, which you always wanted to do. Because once you get in a particular stream, it will be the toughest thing for you to leave it. Neither you will be able to study it nor you will be able to leave it and then there will be only one thing around you - Depression. Talk with your parents what you want to do. 

I might be very small to say the upcoming words, but if you are reading it as a parent, I know that it will be very difficult for you to say yes to your child to let him/her choose his/her favourite subjects. But tell me one thing, if you will pressurise your child now and if he/she becomes what you want in future, will he/she be happy to do that specific work..? 

Today in India in 2021, the biggest competition is in Medical subject. Almost 17 million students give one exam (NEET-UG) at the same time and same date, and that exam which takes place only once a year. Each year 1 million students keep on increasing for this exam. 

There are only 41.3k government seats, 35.5k private college seats (which includes a fee of 15 million/1.5 crores.)

Medical study is of almost 10 years (class11 and class 12 + MBBS (5 years) + 1-year internship + MD (3 years.) Ask your child once, will he/she be able to do it..? I am not saying there is no FUN during the whole journey. But there is a study also, which is tough. 

Just compare 18 million students with 77k seats. Where's the opportunity..? 

Always take that path where there are fewer people, where there is some darkness. But obviously, if you always wanted to take that path, you will succeed easily as you most probably be knowing the amount of hard work to be done in that field, as you might be knowing what you will be studying throughout the field.

If you didn't get what I wanted to say I think I am having a specific video that can explain what I wanted to say - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8XKvERR4L30 

Talking about FAILURES. Värnik claims India's adjusted annual suicide rate is 10.5 per 100,000, while the suicide rate for the world as a whole is 11.6 per 100,000. In India, most of the suicides are committed by students. Most of the students are from the medical and non-medical stream. Some commit suicides as they don't get the expected marks. 

One of my senior friend committed suicide by jumping into a river because he scored nearby 98 percentile in JEE main exam, and he expected 99 percentile. 

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Difference between Sadness and Depression..?

 Getting depression and sadness mixed up is one of the worst things you can do while talking about the former. Understanding the difference between the two is absolutely crucial or they can be very harmful to a person. 

We often hear the term “depression” thrown around lightly in conversation. After a busy day, when we sit with our family together for dinner, some often discuss with their families that they are depressed, and some shy ones hide it from their families. 

The inability to differentiate between sadness and depression can lead us to neglect a severe psychological condition (depression) and overreact to a normal emotional state (sadness). If we overuse the term depression when we are describing our emotional state of sadness, we are simplifying a major mental health disorder.

Depression is a serious mental health disorder that has vast implications on our personal lives, professional lives, and society as a whole.

As of 2017, 300 million people around the world have depression and nearby 70-80% of them are students.

Sadness is a symptom of depression, and because we associate these together, we often struggle to differentiate between these two common psychological states. 

Let's understand SADNESS.

Sadness is a normal emotion that is triggered by a specific adverse event or bad experience. In other words, we become sad about something specific. This emotional state dissipates after some time or after something good, replaces the hurtful event that triggered the initial sadness. 

Sadness is temporary. We may feel sad for a moment, an hour, or even a couple of days. Every individual will experience sadness, many a time, in his/her lifetime. You may become sad because you ended a romantic relationship, or you did not do well on an exam, or you spent the night fighting with a friend. We can often find some relief from our sadness by crying, venting, or talking about our situation. 

Let's understand DEPRESSION.

Depression is a mental health disorder (according to Google)

According to me, it's an acquired feeling by the brain due to some bad experiences/bad decisions taken by a person himself/herself. 

Depression affects our mental and emotional state, which further affects how we think and feel about everything. Depression leaks into every aspect of our life, and when we are depressed, we feel numb or sad about everything. Everything in our life is less enjoyable, less interesting, and less important. The things we once loved and were passionate about no longer bring us meaning or purpose. We lose interest in almost every things. 

Depression is most likely depression. Can't say the same. But many experts say that there is "no specific reason" behind every depression. Might be true. But according to me, 99.5% depression cases around the world are depressed because they are experiencing a bad time which they never expected in their lives (whether it is regarding their job, relationship, marriage life, study, exams, loss of someone special, etc.)

They may be barely able to get out of bed in the morning. They may be struggling with their relationships. They may be lonely. They may be crying at each moment from inside but just smiling from outside. They may no longer find satisfaction or purpose in their job. Depression makes us less patient and quick to anger. Depression forces us to overthink on a specific topic. And that overthinking is always done in a negative way, because your brain is controlled by depression, and not in the way you want. 

Some common symptoms experienced during the depression (already wrote one blog on symptoms.) -  https://sanyamaroraa.blogspot.com/2020/12/how-depression-will-kill-you-from-inside.html

Treating SADNESS versus Treating DEPRESSION. 

Sadness can be overcome within time. You can express your emotions, “cry it out”, go out with friends, or spend time outdoors. Expressing sadness over the loss of a loved one may take some time, but you can still find happiness in other aspects of your life. Engage yourself more with these happy aspects. 

Now, if we talk about the treatment of depression. Depression is also having its types. Bipolar depression is one of them. Many types of serious depressions need proper treatment which includes proper Therapy sessions, counselling, medicines, etc. But if you just got equipped with depression, I don't think you need any kind of treatment. All you need is one TRUE close friend/family member/expert who can listen to you and can help you by just guiding you. 

NOTE - If you are having suicidal thoughts, that's considered serious depression, and you should consult a psychiatrist ASAP. 

NOTE - I am not disrespecting any occupation, by mentioning that it's not a disorder. I wrote what I felt. 

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Suicidal thoughts. (Worst part of life.)

So, everyone might have experienced one worst phase throughout their lives. 

Suicidal thoughts are one of the worst experience if someone has experienced it. Sometimes, a person goes to a religious place to just ask a long age of his/her parents/closed ones from his/her age account.

In Punjab, we ask God that "ਮੇਰੀ ਬਚੀ ਹੋਇ ਉਮਰ ਓਨੁ ਲਗ ਜਾਵੇ" which simply means, Hey god please take my leftover life and add it to ___ (specific person's life).

Sometimes, life throws a person at such a point, where one can neither get out of that condition nor can tell anyone that what he/she is feeling. 

(Just one request - Never ever get angry/shout/fight with an anonymous person. You never know what the other person is going through it. Because of your some bad words/one fight with that person, you might have to read his/her news the next day in the newspaper.)

(Never ever leave a crying person. Whether he/she is anonymous to you, never leave him/her, if you have clearly observed that someone is crying/sad nearby you.)

And if any depressed guy/girl reading this blog, I am just here to help you. Look, everything gonna be fine soon. Not even a single problem stays for a much longer time. Just you need to stay strong during this hard time. Just avoid over-thinking, avoid listening to sad songs. Just try spending some more time with family. Try spending more time with your best friend. Try telling him what you are going through..! He/she will definitely help you in any way.

Help that person, before it's too late.

The harsh reality, except family.!

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FACT - A person only writes what he/she is going through. XD